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Over Thinking

Guiding ThoughtsPosted by Foley Western Wed, January 14, 2015 17:03:52

The Dangers of Over-thinking

The mind is like a monkey, as mind-genius Alan Watts said. It’s darting from the present to the future, and constantly dipping into the past, and this running around requires our thoughts. Thoughts are how we interact with our aspirations, fantasies, and memories, and can be wonderful bridges into all-consuming feelings of joy or sadness. Thoughts can also be the building blocks to complex stories and designs, but no matter where they lead, it’s important to remember that one is still their author.

The pace of 21st century living often grabs one’s attention and takes it away from the origins of one’s thoughts. When one is carrying five bags of shopping that threaten to split by the time one finds one’s car keys, it’s difficult to pause and grasp where one’s mind is leading one’s emotions, and one could get angry. Why does this always happen to me? I should have done this differently.

The world is so annoying. This is an unconscious over-thinking, which is difficult to be fully aware of.

How can one recognise, reflect on, and eventually regulate what feels like bubbles of words that flow by as if from an unreachable tap. Eventually they form an ocean that threatens to slosh around and churn up repetitive thoughts.

Our minds are intelligent machines, so why would they flood our thoughts with negativity? Our brains are wired for self-preservation, and will inject our thoughts with worries and concerns to help us realise and overcome danger. The problem is, minds aren’t geared towards modern problems. They’re more built for screaming at harmful situations and telling one to run from the dark. They get stuck on the complexities of a relationship or the bumps of modern day living. In the dark our minds tint our thoughts with added dangers, a throwback to when we had to be cautious about predators. But nobody is hunting us now. It’s just that nobody can tell our minds. Or can we?

The answer is also the problem. The key way our minds protect us is to teach us how to think. They can’t actively put caution in every new-born thought, so it trains us to do it for them. By repeatedly following the same patterns of thought, these patterns become deep rooted grooves that channel our thoughts in a cautious, sometimes pessimistic, direction. So the way out of these grooves is to recognise and examine their effects. Some people consider themselves naturally unlucky, and joke that things will probably go bad no matter the circumstances. It’s more a case of their minds telling them to mentally prepare for the worst, just in case. Unchecked, these thoughts can directly lead to depression and anxiety.

Once you’re aware of them it’s more possible to dig the grooves in a more positive direction. So, Why does this always happen to me? because well, this is annoying, but understandable. The plastic bags are thin and not designed for heavy weight, and this happens to a lot of people. It changes from a generalised accusation, to a more balanced statement.

Be kind on your mind, it’s only trying to protect you. Critical thoughts are essential in life, it’s just the quantity and power of them that needs to be watched. The most important thing to remember is that negative thoughts tend to flood, whereas positive, beneficial ones tend to feel at the front of one’s mind. Here’s the danger of conscious over-thinking— it feeds the over-cautious tendency of thoughts, and when you’re putting energy into thinking over a certain issue, it allows them to multiply.

Listen to those easily-overshadowed thoughts that aren’t touched by over-thinking. There’s a reason why people often return to their gut feeling when trying to decide a big issue.

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Guiding ThoughtsPosted by Foley Western Tue, June 03, 2014 15:30:58

Give but don't allow yourself to be used, Love but don't allow your heart to be abused,

Trust but don't be naïve, Listen to others but don't lose your own voice.

Life is quite short, so Love the people who treat you right and forget the ones who don't.

Leave Haters to be themselves, you will not make a determined hater love you, no matter what you do.

Try your best in all you do and you will find life can be great.

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Marriages & Relationsips

Guiding ThoughtsPosted by Foley Western Wed, March 05, 2014 14:18:42

Should you only marry your own kind? There are arguments for both sides in my estimation, but the real answer is NO.

Marriage is about the coming together of two people who love each other for themselves, not their race, their colour, their wealth or lack of it. Relationships, what ever the make up of it will survive if They show respect for one another, If they apologise when wrong and accept apology quickly when given, If they strive to always tell each other the truth, If they show each other respect and If they can help it, Not raise their voices to each other and to think before they speak.

A marriage is supposed to be made in heaven but if it is to work in the 21st Century it has to allow both partners to discover their inner potential rather than being merely an institution for living together and raising children,

The best marriages are probably better today than at any time in history because spouses are looking for something other than simply sharing the same home, a goal which would have been acceptable a century or more ago, but now couples are also looking for a spiritual connection, with similar goals and ambitions which they describe as finding their soul mates.

All couples argue, and some disagreements may not be bad for building a relationship. But when arguments become heated, that’s when blame, criticism and name-calling comes out, sometimes unintentionally. And too much of that isn’t as good for marital happiness, as plenty of research show

Women take more responsibility for emotional harmony in a marriage.

It’s important for partners to realise they have a lot of emotional influence on each other. There are two people in this dance, but women may have to take the first step to show him the way and other things will follow.”

This may be something that husbands and wives know intuitively, but now there’s science to back up these hunches

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A Chance

Guiding ThoughtsPosted by Foley Western Fri, February 28, 2014 11:41:05

The quality of mercy is not strained,

It drops as the gentle rain from heaven

Upon the place beneath: it is twice blest;

It blesses him that gives and him that takes:

IT is the mightiest of the mightiest: it becomes

the throned monarch better than his crown;

His sceptre shows the force of temporal power,

The attribute to awe and majesty,

Wherein sits the worry and fear of kings;

But mercy is above this sceptred sway;

It is enthroned in the hearts of kings,

It is an attribute to God himself;

And earthly power then show likeness to God's

When mercy seasons justice.

Therefore if law is all we cling to with no mercy or

kindness, then none of us should see salvation:

We do pray for mercy; And that same prayer does teach us

all to render The deeds of mercy to everyone.

William Shakespeare

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Do you have a purse full of Loyalty Cards?

PersonalPosted by Foley Western Fri, February 07, 2014 11:55:33

If you tipped your purse out would you be surprised at how may Loyalty Cards you have collected over the years? But do you actually use them to their full potential and do you actually know what it means when you do use them. I think the answer you would come up with would be no to both questions. Don’t worry you are not alone.

With points, rewards and cash-back schemes being offered by all the major department stores, supermarkets and a variety of other big brand chains we need a bag just for all the loyalty cards on offer. Have you ever been behind someone paying for their goods and watch them route for a handful of cards before they find that shops loyalty card. Have you been ‘that’ person? I am guessing you can answer yes to both too.

These are the regular ‘Loyalty Cards’ that have found their way into my purse and out of the eight above two don’t get used, four occasionally, with the other two on a weekly basis. Do I know what perks they can offer me – yes I have a fair idea of most of them. So let’s take a look at the ones that deserve to take up room in my purse.

Boots Advantage Card allows you to collect 4 points for every £1 you spend and the points you accumulate can pay for future purchases. Not a regular Boots shopper but over time my points do build up, and especially around Christmas shopping time and I normally find I can treat myself to a little something special once the New Year starts.

Tesco Clubcard have a variety of options to gain points with purchasing in store and online being the best way to collect points at 1 point per £1 spent. You can also collect points on fuel although you only get 1 point for every £2 you spend. Points are converted into clubcard vouchers and you can use instore, or turn into days out vouchers, cinema tickets, or vouchers to eat out. I think I have used my Tesco Clubcard vouchers for most things and definitely worth collecting if you have children and like the zoo.

Nectar Card works similarly to Boots Advantage Card and can be used in Sainsbury’s, Homebase, Ebay and British Gas. Mine gets used solely for Sainsbury’s where you get 2 points per £1 spent in store and online. Points add up to a cash total with 200 points equalling £1 and my points are being saved to use at Christmas, and something I am sure many customers decide to do.

Costa Coffee allows you to collect five points for every £1 you spend, with each point being worth a penny and can be used for future coffee and cake treats. Whenever a shopping trip is arranged there is always a visit to Costa Coffee, so for me this one has to stay.

Why not take a look at what is in your purse and see if they should stay or go and make room for a loyalty card that is going to be worth carrying around.

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National Storytelling Week

ChildrenPosted by Foley Western Sat, February 01, 2014 11:54:30

It is said storytelling began a very long time ago when man collected words and spoke to lift life through fables, tales and stories, often accompanied by hand movements and facial gestures. Nowadays storytelling is a huge part of life that starts as early as the infant years and continue through life until the last years of life. Storytelling is not just for entertainment, it can help aid bereavement and therapy, support learning difficulty and special needs groups, to even improving communication in the business world. The act of sharing stories between storyteller and listener feeds the imagination and is continued to be passed from one generation to another.

Today sees the start of the 14th annual National Storytelling Week which is run by The Society of Storytelling. It begins today Saturday 1st February and last until the following Saturday 8th February. The aim of the National Storytelling Week is to spread the ‘word’ and promote ‘the oldest art form in the world’ – storytelling. You might have seen posters in your local library or art gallery with details of how they are celebrating National Storytelling Week, or if you have young children their school may have decided to include National Storytelling Week in their school week.

You can find out where and when events in your area are taking place on The Society of Storytelling website where there are lots of information and resources for everyone to use.

Why not have your own storytelling event and help spread the word. All you need is your imagination and a willing audience and it doesn’t matter if it is 1 person or 100 people, keep the joy of storytelling alive and pass the ‘word’ on.

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Atlantis - Merely Just A Myth

Guiding ThoughtsPosted by Foley Western Mon, January 27, 2014 11:38:35

What springs to mind when you hear someone mention the word Atlantis? Do you conjure up images of underwater cities and mythical characters or remember the latest TV or film to hit our screens that depicts the lost city under the sea? So is Atlantis merely just a myth or did this now submerged city once look out over the ocean that surround it.

According to Plato, one of the world’s best known philosophers, Atlantis was in fact a major sea power located in the Atlantic. His accounts included detailed descriptions of Atlantis, the mountains and plains that surrounded the great city and its successful conquests of parts of Western Europe and Africa. It is also believed, after a failed attempt to invade Athens, Atlantis supposedly sank into the ocean and has remained there ever since.

For many years archaeologists, architects and scientists have tried to discover the exact location of this missing city and searches have, with the help of the information Plato shared, been focused on the Mediterranean and the Atlantic as the most likely sites.

We have seen how much of their life these specialists devote to carrying on their research and finally get the proof they have been long searching for. Astronauts have gone into space and landed on the moon, surely experienced divers can locate Atlantis and show the world that Atlantis was more than a figment of a great philosopher’s imagination. It would be interesting to see what comes to the surface in the future.

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12 years slave

Guiding ThoughtsPosted by Foley Western Thu, January 23, 2014 13:21:29

Of course we must not forget tof as well.

Kind regards to you all xx

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